My thoughts. . . Tis’ the season.

Tis’ the season. Depending on your religious or spiritual beliefs, December for many is the Holiday Season. It’s supposed to be joyous and festive.. Yet, for some people (ADHD or not) the holiday season is one often associated with STRESS, rushing around, crowds and traffic, and a time crunch with overwhelming deadlines. Yes, as if there isn’t already enough on your TO DO list, many ADHD adults may now find themselves running behind on their multiple holiday tasks and deadlines with an urgent effort get everything done on time.  

This holiday season give yourself the gift of self acceptance. Be grateful for what you do have and what you have done. Be grateful for your impulsive and energetic nature. Have fun! But most of all… be gentle with yourself. Be forgiving and accept yourself; your nature and your ADHD traits. That’s not to say that you’re fully baked. Of course not, we are all an unfinished project. We are all in process…But during this season give yourself the gift of being gentle with yourself. 

This week I was coaching an ADHD client and he began the coaching call with a sense of sorrow and regret. “It’s the end of another year and I feel like I haven’t done enough. I feel like I’m no better off than where I was in my life last year”.  The holiday season also carries a bench mark as it represents the conclusion of another year. For some, it’s easy to focus on what you didn’t get done or what you didn’t accomplish from your 2007 goals or wish list. Be aware of a possible tendency to beat yourself up during this time of year. Why not try a more gentle and responsible approach this year: 1) acknowledge your ‘incompletes’, own them. 2) set new related goals and deadlines for 2008. 3) reflect on what you DID accomplish in 2007(minor as well as significant accomplishments). 4) Lastly, there is always another opportunity to do it differently; to create another, more satisfying outcome(s). 

As you approach the New Year allow yourself to see it as a massive opportunity to create wonderful outcomes that bring great benefits to your life. If you still struggle with incompletes and you’re feeling frustrated and/or doubting your ability to create positive outcomes, do something different. First of all, don’t be the ‘lone ranger’. Find an “Accountability Buddy” to be partner up with. Declare your goals (annual, quarterly, monthly and weekly) to your Accountability Buddy and check-in on a regular basis. It’s very likely that you’ll accomplish your stated goals and create the powerful outcomes you desire when you partner with someone else; someone to be accountable to.  

I learned a powerful statement a few years ago from a personal coach that has boosted me during moments of personal weakness. When I recite this statement I immediately feel a surge of energy and determination. Give it a try and let me know your personal experience. Here it is: “If it’s going to be, it’s up to me”. 

Enjoy this holiday season. Be joyous, Be gentle and set yourself up for a wonderful 2008! 

~CoachRudy 

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