ADHD and Exercise

Much has been written about treaments and remedies for ADD/ADHD. Dr. John Ratey, author and ADD Expert recently wrote a book entitled, “Spark” which focuses on the many benefits of exercise to the management of ADD/ADHD.
Here is a LIMITED time opportunity to listen to an audio recording featuring Dr. John Ratey discussing ADHD and Exercise. The audio is available at no charge  for a short time before it will be removed from public access and placed in the members only library.
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Good News . . .

I entered the New Year ‘bound and determined’ and armed with my new success goals for 2008. With this attitude it was also clear to me that this was an opportunity to readdress some incomplete goal tasks from 2007.


Not long after creating this blogsite I ran into some significant design and site challenges that I’ve been unable to resolve on my own. Nor have I been successful in finding someone to help me resolve the issues. Meanwhile, I’ve been sitting on plans to update this site, add new pages, add some bells and whistles and more. 

Now for the good news… (drum roll)… Following a determined one week search for a technical virtual assistant I’ve finally found the right person. In fact, the work is being conducted as we speak, in the background, so you won’t notice any immediate changes. However once Sarah completes her work this week, I will have access to tools that will allow me to add several NEW features to this site.

Hooray!  …Don’t you love it when a plan comes together? Stay tuned for an exciting new look to this site.

Are looking for a VA for your blog, I now have an excellent recommendation. You can find Sarah Lewis, Blogging Guru at .

My thoughts… Moving into 2008

What results will you create in 2008 ?

It’s now official, we are in the year 2008 and I am reminded of the most common question that arises with every New Year. “Have you made your New Years Resolutions yet?” Now doesn’t that question conjure up positive and successful memories? Of course not! Research shows us that most people lack the true ‘resolve’ to actually achieve a New Years Resolution. By definition, “a New Year’s Resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous”.

In my coach training program, we learned that people tend to be unsuccessful at achieving their goals and resolutions simply because most people consider it just another ‘good idea’. It’s rare for a ‘good idea’ to actually become reality because there is a lack of true commitment. Furthermore, those few ‘good ideas’ that do become a reality generally don’t last very long, again from lack of drive and commitment.

A new BMO Financial Group study conducted by Angus Reid Strategies says nearly all Canadians (about 96 per cent) make a resolution at the start of a new calendar year. The study suggests more resolutions would be kept if Canadians committed to creating a plan. It said nearly two-thirds of respondents believe developing an action plan or receiving professional assistance would help them achieve their goals.

Then there is judgment. I decided to add a single page insert to my 2007 Christmas cards. After avoiding the task for a few weeks, I finally sat and began to write my insert – a capsulation of my life in 2007. As I wrote I quickly realized the source of my discomfort and avoidance of this task. As I summarized the year I had  wanted to ‘evaluate and judge’ my successes and failures of 2007. Ouch! Not the approach I wanted to create for myself.

As a Coach I stress that “YOU are not your results”. Your results are simply your results. In coaching, there is no judgment. No judgment about you; no judgment about your results. And as you may have noticed, ‘self judgment’ (beating up yourself) rarely leads to forwarding or motivating behaviors. As you review your results (successes and failures) of 2007, remember that they are simply your results. No more judgment, none.

Try a new approach this year. Use my “Coach Approach” (listed below) as a tool when reviewing your 2007 results and when creating your vision/goals for 2008. Some famous person once said, “People who fail to plan, plan to fail”. Create a solid plan for 2008 and then take committed  action for successful results. Let me know your thoughts and results, how this Coach Approach worked or didn’t work for you?  

~ Coach Rudy

The Coach Approach – Coaching Tips:

As your Coach, I ask you:

  • What was your vision, your goals for 2007? What did you intend to create in your life?
  • In review, how did you do? How did you end up… 50%, 80%, 100%  accomplishment or completion of your goal(s) ?
  • What was working ‘from you’ to create your results?
  • What was NOT working ‘from you’ to create your results?

Now here’s the next big questions to ask yourself for 2008:

  • So, what’s next? What is your new or continued vision / goals for 2008?
  • What will you do this year that you didn’t do or complete in 2007?
  • How important is it for you to complete this goal/vision? (1 – 10; 10= High). Anything less than an 8, 9 or 10 is not likely to produce successful results.
  • Do you have a plan charted out on a time-plan? “What by when”?
  • Do you have someone to support you along the way? Do you have an Accountability Buddy?

Let me know your thoughts and results, how this Coach Approach worked or didn’t work for you?   ~ Coach Rudy –

My thoughts. . . Tis’ the season.

Tis’ the season. Depending on your religious or spiritual beliefs, December for many is the Holiday Season. It’s supposed to be joyous and festive.. Yet, for some people (ADHD or not) the holiday season is one often associated with STRESS, rushing around, crowds and traffic, and a time crunch with overwhelming deadlines. Yes, as if there isn’t already enough on your TO DO list, many ADHD adults may now find themselves running behind on their multiple holiday tasks and deadlines with an urgent effort get everything done on time.  

This holiday season give yourself the gift of self acceptance. Be grateful for what you do have and what you have done. Be grateful for your impulsive and energetic nature. Have fun! But most of all… be gentle with yourself. Be forgiving and accept yourself; your nature and your ADHD traits. That’s not to say that you’re fully baked. Of course not, we are all an unfinished project. We are all in process…But during this season give yourself the gift of being gentle with yourself. 

This week I was coaching an ADHD client and he began the coaching call with a sense of sorrow and regret. “It’s the end of another year and I feel like I haven’t done enough. I feel like I’m no better off than where I was in my life last year”.  The holiday season also carries a bench mark as it represents the conclusion of another year. For some, it’s easy to focus on what you didn’t get done or what you didn’t accomplish from your 2007 goals or wish list. Be aware of a possible tendency to beat yourself up during this time of year. Why not try a more gentle and responsible approach this year: 1) acknowledge your ‘incompletes’, own them. 2) set new related goals and deadlines for 2008. 3) reflect on what you DID accomplish in 2007(minor as well as significant accomplishments). 4) Lastly, there is always another opportunity to do it differently; to create another, more satisfying outcome(s). 

As you approach the New Year allow yourself to see it as a massive opportunity to create wonderful outcomes that bring great benefits to your life. If you still struggle with incompletes and you’re feeling frustrated and/or doubting your ability to create positive outcomes, do something different. First of all, don’t be the ‘lone ranger’. Find an “Accountability Buddy” to be partner up with. Declare your goals (annual, quarterly, monthly and weekly) to your Accountability Buddy and check-in on a regular basis. It’s very likely that you’ll accomplish your stated goals and create the powerful outcomes you desire when you partner with someone else; someone to be accountable to.  

I learned a powerful statement a few years ago from a personal coach that has boosted me during moments of personal weakness. When I recite this statement I immediately feel a surge of energy and determination. Give it a try and let me know your personal experience. Here it is: “If it’s going to be, it’s up to me”. 

Enjoy this holiday season. Be joyous, Be gentle and set yourself up for a wonderful 2008! 


Get Past Procrastination

 There are many possible reasons for putting off until tomorrow what you intended to do today. It is only once you know why you are doing it that you can figure out what to do about it.

   Reason    Solution
You need more information to do the job right. Replace what’s currently on your list with a different task, such as “gather needed information.”
It’s overwhelming to think about. Break the project down into smaller chunks. Don’t post the project name on your list, only the next step.
The deadline is far away so you still have time. Set interim deadlines to be sure the final one doesn’t creep up on you.
You don’t like the task. Delegate it, swap with someone else, or create a reward system for yourself. Be sure to follow through on the reward even if it’s only a fifteen-minute break to read a magazine, or this technique will become less effective over time.
You don’t know where to start. Start anywhere. This will motivate you to continue and complete the task.
Other priorities get in the way. Review your hopes and dreams. How important is this project to reaching them? Get clear on this so you know to move this item up the list or drop it permanently.

Source: “The Organized Life: Secrets of an Expert Organizer” by Stephanie Denton

Brain Areas Wired Diffefently in Adult ADDers

Several recent magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) studies show altered brain areas related to executive function and attention control in adults with ADHD. One study found major volumetric abnormalities in the brain scans of ADHD adults, compared with non-ADHD adults, providing evidence that the disorder is biological. ~Biological Psychiatry

Quick relief from e-mail overload

Eliminate Time-Draining E-mail Habits 

If you are feeling overburdened and stressed at work, your online habits may be partly to blame. Poor e-mail management often is a sign—or the cause—of other time management woes. A top culprit: mismanaging incoming messages.

Marsha Egan, president of The Egan Group, a success-coaching firm, offers a self-management program that teaches you how to eliminate time draining e-mail habits and boost your productivity. First, Egan says, you need to alter your perception of e-mail: Stop viewing the act of checking e-mail as a task in itself; come to see e-mail as merely a task delivery system. Then adopt these habits:

  • Empty your inbox every time you check it.
  • Live by the two-minute rule. If you can handle any incoming message in two minutes or less, do so immediately. That could mean replying to, forwarding or simply deleting a message.
  • Use a filing system. Create action folders and use them temporarily to file e-mail messages that will take longer than two minutes to respond to. Treat those messages as items on your daily to-do list.
  • Control incoming messages—instead of letting them control you. Change your “send and receive” e-mail function from “Automatic” to “Every two hours.”

Source: Success Magazine July/August 2007

Preparation for College Life – Part II

Preparation for College Life Part II—Questions to Ask and Where to Ask Them.

by Shelly A Meyers, M.S. Ed. 

August, 2007 

The college campus can be a very exciting and intimidating place. Locating the appropriate buildings, finding services, and surveying the off-campus community can be daunting in the beginning. So where do you start? There are questions you or your child can ask that will make this part of on-campus living much easier. 

Where are my classes? When students receive their schedule there should be a building location and room number indicated next to the class number and title. Usually a campus map is not attached to the schedule. When your freshman goes through orientation they should receive a student handbook or planner—the map is usually located there. If not, find the dorm resident assistant (R.A.) to ask for directions. Usually during move-in weekend there are designated faculty, staff, and students to assist with this as well. Be sure not to wait until the first day of classes to locate the classrooms. Classroom numbering doesn’t always make sense, and on a big campus such as a state university this may mean the difference of several miles between buildings.  

Where do I eat? On a small campus there may only be one dining facility or cafeteria. The easiest person to ask is a fall athlete. Chances are they have been there for a few weeks for camp and are now seasoned veterans. On a large campus there are several dining facilities, and your child’s meal plan may only work for one. Be sure to ask wherever you purchased the meal plan, usually student services. Again, the R.A. is a good resource as well. 

When is tutoring or study hall? If your child is an athlete, these times will be made known by the athletic coach or NCAA/NAIA athletic coordinator. If not, contact your disabilities services office and make an appointment with the director or coordinator to schedule your tutoring. Be sure you read the guidelines pertaining to absences. Some programs will discontinue services if attendance becomes a problem. The best disabilities services will have one-on-one tutoring that will be catered to your child’s schedule so be sure to ask if these services are available.  

Where are counseling/ medical services? Your disabilities services office should have this information as well. If you have decided not to use those services, you can check with your student services office as well. Usually an R.A. would know, but there is a confidentiality and confidence issue that should be considered. 

One last point—There are many opportunities to get involved at the collegiate level. There are sports, clubs, societies, intramurals, and socials. If your child suffers from any sort of depression, encourage him/her to get involved. Be sure that the disabilities services office is aware of the signs of depression as they present in your child. Call often the first few weeks, even if they don’t answer the phone. Knowing they still have support can mean the difference in a successful first semester experience. 

by College Coach, Shelly A Meyers, M.S. Ed.   

AD/HD and dating

ADHD and dating –  

After concluding a recent seminar about AD/HD Adults a nice young woman approached me and asked what I knew about AD/HD and dating. She spoke briefly about her serial relationships that more often that not ended when she became bored with her partner. This was quickly followed by the excitement of a new partner, a new relationship. Remember that phrase, “Stimulation is my friend”. While, I am very familiar with the literature and have counseled/coaching couples in AD/HD relationships I confessed to her that I was less familiar with the dynamics of AD/HD dating.  

I’m in the process of drafting an article and teleclass on the topic of “AD/HD Dating” so I thought I’d go to you my readers for input on this topic. I invite you to share your thoughts and experiences with dating from the perspective of an AD/HD adult or from the perspective of having dated an ADHD adult. 

   1.  What did you enjoy [most / least] about dating an AD/HD adult?

   2.  If you’re an AD/HD adult, what are your biggest challenges of dating?

   3.  If a non-AD/HD adult, describe your challenges dating an AD/HD adult?

   4.  Feel free to share brief examples using only fictional first names.

Please do not limit your comments to these questions. All responses will be dealt with confidentially so I will not reveal anyone’s identity other than first names if provided.  

Please send your comments to:

Study – Teen’s More ‘Connected’

Today’s teens are more interactive and multitask more than any generation before them. Here’s how and how often they are connected:

  • Most teens own cell phones (33 percent of kids ages 12 to 14; 57 percent of teens ages 15 to 17). Thirty-three percent report using a cell phone to send a text message.
  • Sixty-two percent of teenagers 12 to 18 years old multitask with other media, such as listening to an iPod or watching TV while using the computer.
  • Seventy-five percent of online teens use instant messaging, compared with 42 percent of online adults. According to The Pew/Internet & American Life Project Teens and Technology, “Teens who participated in focus groups … said they view e-mail as something you use to talk to ‘old people,’ institutions or to send complex instructions to large groups.”
  • Children ages 8 to 18 spend more time (6.5 hours per day) in front of computers, televisions, and game screens than any other activity in their lives except sleeping.
  • Teens report use of the Internet for e-mail (89 percent), online games (81 percent), searching for current events (76 percent) and instant messaging (75 percent).
  • Eighty-seven percent of teenagers use the Internet.
  • More than 60 percent of teens would not post a resume on social networking web sites MySpace, Facebook or Friendster for employers to see. But 32 percent would remove content from these sites if they knew their employer could see it.
  • Teens are the greatest contributors to blogs, message boards and chat rooms about their companies. 

Sources: Kaiser Family Foundation; National Institute on Media and the Family; Pew/Internet & American Life Project; Spherion.

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